Long before the social media age, a 2000 study found that teenagers see 143 incidents of sexual behavior on network television at prime time each week; few represented safe and healthy sexual relationships.
The media tend to glamorize, degrade and exploit sexuality and intimate relationships.
Her irrational response (“Why do you want to talk about this when I don’t? ”) is an attempt to get you to leave her alone so she doesn’t have to think about the basics of sex ed., which is a childish stalling tactic. If she again suggests you’re doing something wrong in bringing it up, remind her that having the sex talk is a standard-issue milestone for everyone, and there’s nothing inappropriate about discussing how you two want to handle it together.
If your wife communicates to your daughter what she’s communicated with you (that talking about sex and bodies is perverse, that having questions is weird), she’s going to do her a real disservice. Friend’s son with Down syndrome hurts others: We have a group of friends that used to get together more frequently before we all had kids.
Parental influence is essential to sexual understanding, yet parents’ approaches, attitudes and beliefs in teaching their children are still tentative.
Refuse to allow her discomfort with the topic to put you off.
While there is no consensus as to a critical level of communication, we do know that some accurate, reliable information about sex reduces risky behaviors.
If parents are uncomfortable dealing with sexual issues, those messages are passed to their children.
During late childhood, a more powerful force – peer relationships – takes over parental influences that are vague or too late in delivery.
Even if parents don’t feel competent in their delivery of sexual information, children receive and incorporate parental guidance with greater confidence than that from any other source.