One of the most important actions a man can take when dating or building a relationship with a woman with this cargo ship of obligation is to be respectful of her time and her life.
The last thing she needs is to be concerned or preoccupied with is when she will hear from you, her significant other. Call her regularly, even if it's just to tell her you are thinking about her. When you acknowledge her circumstance, it shows her you care.
We are responsible for their well-being and daily survival.
Hidden under the layers of responsibility lie our own needs, which resurface as we disengage from our identity as a married woman.
From the outside, we may look the same as our single comrades (with no children,) but the insides of our lives, minds and hearts are vastly different.
She hasn't had the opportunity to share her thoughts or feelings with a partner for years. Listen to her talk about her day -- what the kids did, the good parts, the bad parts.
Since my separation three and half years ago, I've noticed a growing number of my contemporaries (in their early to mid-30s) join the force of divorcees.
Recently, several of my freshly divorced friends have confided in me about their struggles.
We have undergone massive life shifts from single-hood to married life, pregnancy, childbirth, breastfeeding; enduring radical changes to our bodies and minds.
We are connected, interwoven with the lives of our children.